Giving. That’s the word that describes my mom.
With Mother’s Day coming up, I’ve been thinking about her a lot. It’s the fifth May that I’m remembering mom instead of celebrating with her. I’ve joined many of my friends in this tender place of reminiscing.
That’s how I got to the word, “giving”. When I think of Mom, I’m reminded of all the ways she gave. She was always giving to someone from a joyful heart of love.
So, my friend, I’ve made a list of 10 things that Mom gave often. I received these gifts, and I watched her give them to others too. I want to share the list with you for a couple of reasons.
- First of all, it’s more fun to reminisce with others than alone. So thanks for letting me talk about Mom today. I’d love for you to share in the comments about your mom too.
- And secondly, I realize that I can keep giving, just like Mom. Well, honestly, I doubt I’ll ever give with the intensity that she did. I’ll give differently, with my own style, but I’ll keep giving from a joyful heart. Hopefully this list will remind you of ways that you can keep giving in meaningful ways too.
Here’s the list of 10 things that Mom gave often…
- Mom gave lots of hugs. They were full, wrap around, squeeze hard, cheek pressed to cheek hugs delivered with the words, “I love you.” She was always generous with her hugs.
- Mom gave a listening ear. Mom listened often, whether it was in the kitchen while she prepared a meal, sitting on the swing with someone in the backyard, or nestled on the pew in the back of the church auditorium. She often gave a listening ear to others who needed to be understood.
- Mom gave a home that was an inviting place to be—for her family and for others who needed family. It was a safe place to recover from a long day, feel happy or sad, relax or tackle tasks.
- Mom gave great meals for gathering people together. Part of that inviting home was having mealtimes together. She believed that good food made good memories. Whether it was breakfast with the family, a Sunday lunch with friends or a banquet for 100 people, Mom made food that brought people together around a table.
- Mom gave second chances—or 3rd, or 4th or 5th. She was always quick to forgive and give people a chance for a new beginning.
- Mom gave a song to cheer the heart. Whether she was singing with a group, kneading the dough alone in the kitchen, or on a road trip to Arkansas, mom was ready to sing–from spirituals to silly. She liked to sing, so she often gave the gift of music.
- Mom gave her blessing. Mom affirmed us right where we were and expressed hope in our future. I remember when we were a young married couple that she gave us the book, The Blessing. But even better than giving us the book, she was great at giving us her blessing throughout our different stages in life.
- Mom gave a great party. She loved to celebrate others’ victories. If there was a reason to celebrate, she was ready to throw a party. She showed value to her family and to others by rejoicing in others’ good news.
- Mom gave her time to serve others. Mom was quick to go out of her way to help others, whoever they were—family, friends, or someone she just met. She served in little ways and she served in big ways. She often gave her time without expecting anything in return.
- Mom gave her love for God. Everything she gave was wrapped in the love of God. Mom loved God, she knew God loved her, and she gave that love to others. Mom lived in such a way that I wanted to love God and give his love to others too.
What about you? Whether you are celebrating with your mom this year, or remembering the way she was, what are ways you’ve seen your mom give? Or what are ways you enjoy giving to your family now?
Have a Happy Mother’s Day weekend!